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ABOUT CHILD CUSTODY COACH™ APPROACH
I believe that combining the principles of "coaching" using an applied
educational approach will yield the greatest results in child custody matters in the
family court system.
The family court system in regards to child custody is an imperfect system, heavily influenced by human biases, personal experiences, ulterior
motives, perception, and appearance. The standard in most all states for determining custody is the best interest of the child standard. Although this appears to be straightforward on its face, interpretation of this standard has certainly not been.
Sadly, good parents lose custody of their children because they are not properly informed and/or did not take the time to properly prepare their case. Additionally, parents who rely solely on their attorney often end up with high legal fees and extremely disappointed.
If you are in the unfortunate situation where litigation is your only alternative, which
for many it is, I believe that there is no realistic or practical replacement for a competent family law attorney if you are seeking legal representation or legal advice.
However, attorney fees, custody confusion, worry, and
anxiety can be significantly reduced with information, preparation, planning, guidance and help from The Custody CoachTM with the potential for greater results.
The coaching services provided by The Custody Coach can help you succeed by empowering you with information on child custody. Our mission is
to help others by sharing insight gained from extensive research, training and experience. The Custody Coach can help you get from where you are to where
you want to go and help you make better choices along the way. That is what coaching is all about!
I have been fortunate to connect with many namely individuals in the child custody community, some of which are recognized nationally or internationally for their unique professional skills and many of which are published authors and supporting me in my efforts to
provide a coaching service for the common good.
Child Custody Coach provides services that are educational and informative on child custody topics and custody evaluations in the family court system
and set up and designed to be a low-cost entry and/or focal point for
custody information and resources. Information and self education can help take the insanity out of child custody when
family law attorneys and the family court system get involved. Child Custody Coach hopes to provide the public with a reliable
service and source for information and education in regards to child custody, so you can stay informed and keep your sanity every step of the way.
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WHAT IS A MENTOR?
Mentoring is often referred to as the "transfer of wisdom". It is the process by which
an individual learns from someone who has similar personal experiences and has been down the same
path that has taken an interest in helping others. Metaphorically, a mentor is thought to be
someone who is older and wiser.
Having a wealth training, insight, and personal experience with child custody, I have taken an interest in
transferring this knowledge in order to help others who are caught up in the family legal system.
A mentor can do the following for the mentee:
- A trusting relationship and safe environment for asking difficult questions
- Connects mentee to the informal system and is knowledgeable about the culture of the system
- Shares history and personal experiences
- Shares perspectives
- Is a good listener (active and receptive)
- Willing and able to spend time with mentee
- Gives honest feedback
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WHAT IS A COACH?
As a coach, I am concerned with increasing my client's own knowledge and thought processes.
It is much about creating a supportive environment for challenge and to develop critical thinking
skills, ideas, and behaviors that are specific to child custody. While the strength of mentoring
lies in the mentor's specific knowledge and wisdom, in coaching it lies in the facilitation and
development of a client's personal character and qualities. As a coach, I combine efforts to bring different skills
and experience and offer a new perspective--a different viewpoint. In both cases, coaching
and mentoring one-to-one attention is necessary and paramount.
In the realm of child custody, information and knowledge gained or known, must be applied in
order to be effective and present yourself in the best possible light.
All too often, the better parent loses custody because they did not plan or were not prepared or educated enough in advance.
The lesson to be learned, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail." It is so sad to see good parents lose custody of their children because they were not properly informed and/or did not take the time to properly prepare their case. As a child custody coach and mentor, I help parents plan and prepare their case and help parents explore ideas to help minimize the opportunities for the child custody community to find fault with their appearance, character, or parenting style.
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The International Coaching Federation® (ICF) describes the nature and scope of coaching as follows:
"Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives."
"Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach's job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has."
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MAKE IT APPLICABLE
In child custody cases and custody evaluations, information and knowledge alone is meaningless without proper application.
As Dale Carnegie stated, "information is not power unless it is applied." I am able
to help by sharing relevant examples of court documents where I see fit that may be of benefit
to your specific situation such as, attorney bills, psychological reports, declarations,
custody evaluation documents, move-away documents, and more. I can provide effective documents
and templates that can help you document, organize, streamline your goals, better determine where you stand, and save you time and money. My goal is to work with you to develop a plan and to help you put information
into action. I want to help you advance your opportunities in achieving your goals.
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KEEP IT CONFIDENTIAL
The personal information you share with me is confidential unless you give me permission to release it or as required by law. This applies to my clients only who have entered into a coaching agreement and contract. This does not apply to non-client Internet communications with this site or e-mail communications as specified on the disclaimer page of this web site. I work independent of and refuse to be apart of
the circle of people in the family law community whose motives often appear to be ulterior, unethical, and
questionable, and at times seem to be working together to keep each other gainfully employed. I will at times suggest or
recommend you to explore outside resources where I see fit, that I either have personal knowledge of, or experience
with, or came highly recommended through an extremely reliable source.
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REDUCE ATTORNEY FEES AND LITIGATION COSTS
My desire is to save you money and help you better prevent your attorney from capitalizing off of your unfortunate, emotional,
and high stake custody situation. Inflated attorney fees and high court costs are unavoidable when your
attorney knows you are ill-informed of the court processes and procedures and the amount of
work that is likely needed to represent you on your case. This makes you an easy target for
the Attorney's Hidden Agenda, by allowing your attorney to bolster up your
case and create unnecessary work and thus, increasing attorney costs.
One of my goals is to educate and empower you with some options you can take if you feel your attorney has been
unethical in handling your case or if you feel that your attorney fees are grossly exaggerated.
It is important to understand your attorney-client agreement upon retaining your attorney and also
the rules for professional conduct that your attorney is bound to. In cases, where you feel your
attorney has been charging you improperly or his or her conduct an d/or ethics appear suspect, one
should be educated on the steps for filing a complaint with the State Bar and how to mediate
an d/or make a request for fee arbitration. In some states, such as California, fee arbitration can be mandatory and an attorney must inform you of your right to arbitrate should there be a dispute about their billing. In other words, despite their threats to file a lawsuit against you to collect fees, they may not be able to so unless they have notified you of your right to arbitrate first. You may want to check your attorney-client retainer agreement to see if there is a clause regarding fee arbitration and find out the rules and deadlines in your particular county with respect to fee arbitration.
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CHILD CUSTODY COACH™ MISSION
My mission is to help you save money and to help you successfully manage and win in this imperfect
and often times unjust family court system, which speaks much about the "best
interest of the child", yet, abuses its authority ignoring and often times making decisions and recommendations
that are in clear violation of you and your children's constitutional and parental rights.
If you have a case pending or see yourself headed down the path of litigation or a child custody
evaluation, let's talk. You can contact me directly by sending me an e-mail below.
Look forward to speaking and working with you.
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